A friend of mine invited me to get wasted on a nightclub event. “Goodbye UN, Rob. Banyak cewe SMA.”, he said. I replied it with straight no. “Mager ah.”, I said. I took the invitation ticket for the sake of a good manner as a friend.
I’m not Nabi that opposes every practice which doesn’t in line with religious values. I drink alcohol. Do things that God forbids. I’m a sinner.
When it comes to alcohol, I prefer drinking it on a bar. All boys, getting wasted, full of laughter. Sometimes with good live music where all boys trying to follow the melody with their unsynchronized voice.
Alcohol and nightclub aren’t the perfect matches for me.
Spending the night wasting money just to hear noisy bass-drop music that even has no lyrics or if it has, the lyric just some people say same repetitive shits, is just not my kind of forte. Moreover, that kind of music usually comes with people who dance like they’re under influence of a substance or something. They don’t know what they’re doing.
Ok, enough of my ranting. Now let’s get into the real argument.
If some of you have the privilege of never been to a nightclub, I’ll give you some pictures of it. Nightclubs are often filled with two types of people. They who usually come to it and they who usually don’t. People who usually come to nightclubs are mostly horny men. On contrary, people who don’t are mostly innocent women who have no idea what men can do to her. Both will get drunk and do things. Things I hate. Things I despise. Kissing in public as if kissing just invented yesterday.
Now with those pictures, imagine few conditions below.
Take a closer look at the idea of nightclubs itself. They make policy that gives some advantages to women. If you’re a woman and you want to come early like two hours before midnight, you’ll get a free pass and often free drinks too. Amazing right? It’s a good place for women to hang out!
But here’s the tricky part.
Nightclubs offer them free drinks because they need some spenders. They need some horny men to waste their money on expensive alcohol that its price has been rigged. These horny men only want to spend if there are women around him. I don’t know if it has something to do with their broken masculinity or it’s just an act of ‘proving I can afford it and you can’t’ but that’s what they do.
I hate nightclubs because they use women as a tool to lure men to spend money on drinks. I don’t oppose physical interaction like kissing, making out, or grabbing each other genitals as long as it’s consensual, both parties enjoy and want it. But the thing is, alcohol prevents people from making rational decisions. In many cases, it even prevents people from doing rejections.
Imagining women get caught into a condition where they’re forced to do something against their will is the image I can’t bear. I’ve heard enough of stories where men put moves to make women passed out and do things to her. All of it involves alcohol. Some of it involves drugs. Those stories come from my friends, my colleagues, and my exes.
This fucked up massive scheme ends with guys telling their buddy what happened in a nightclub. To validate their stories, these little bastards often show some pictures when they’re doing it. I repeat. Pictures when they’re doing it. The more they have pictures, the more they will get famous and labeled as a womanizer among their friends.
I don’t want to participate nor contribute to that fucked up massive scheme. I decline to be in the same boat with those bastards. I don’t want to be associated with them.
For me, those type of bastards isn’t a womanizer. Womanizer has manners. They have balls to ask a girl politely and have the dignity to accept rejection. They don’t need mind-altering substance to make girls like them. Full guards on, state of rational thinking, and straight mind doesn’t prevent womanizer to approach girls.
But if being a womanizer means I should go to nightclubs and do all the drills above, I’d rather be an otaku who madly in love with anime character.